3 Kissa;s of the year Twenty Ten!!

JGD….

The new Post is on Self Created knowledge sheet by yours truly R.B.K!!

Knowledge inspired from 5^th December, 2010

Refresher course, SSRVM, Mulund

In the divine presence of Anjanadi!

The Topic KISSA’S –

   THE HAPPENING’S IN DAY TO DAY LIFE!!

YES that’s what it is! I call it Kissa’s…sometimes they are Motha (Big) and sometimes they are Chota (Small) Kissa’s for me! But after all what ever happens Kissa’s are there!

And I am damn sure by the time you finish reading this post, u too will agree with me about the Happening’s that do take place in our day to day lives. Be it catching a local train or paying the restaurant bills or talking with your girl friend over the phone! We all in our own way experience in our unique way, isn’t it? 

So do I experience life! I just have a completely different perspective to look at it, well it might not be practical but it still is and will be unique as it’s mine! 

I don’t remember the exact date but what I do remember that I was talking over the phone with Viru-paji (who recently got the nick name of PHON-SUKH-LANGDU!) and suddenly after about 10 minutes of talking, I started saying,” Kissa aahe re! Motha Kissa aahe “ that’s it from that moment onwards I got into the habit of saying it frequently!  And so much so that today all people around me have started using this word more frequently! Kissa hai!

Anyways funny aspect apart, but tell me isn’t it true that sometimes we are short of words when we really need to communicate! At such times we just look for some words that fit in!

Well for me this has not just been a word but an experience till date! As I said earlier we all go through experiences in life some of the experiences are pleasant some unpleasant!  

Here is a look at few of them in the past year.  

FIRST Real Motha Kissa! 

The Year Twenty Ten has been full of Topsy Turvy Emotions and till date it’s not easy to manage such emotions. Whatever things that I personally had planned for the year when it started in BLISS at the Bangalore Ashram, did not happen. And when I look back it I was often found on the back foot because of things that happened in personal and professional life. Just because of the Master’s grace I was able to get through all the happenings with out much scare.

As my luck would have it, I found out that I was giving my hundred percent in a completely wrong direction, and I suffered badly due to it. Emotions are part and parcel of everybody’s life, but for me it was starting to become life itself. I was involved so much that it was almost impossible for me to come out of the entire scenario.

The group of people around me mattered the most. Today I am slowly but surely crawling my way back to my best. And I am pretty sure with 2011 around the corner; I would be back to my own bubbly self.

My Learning from this kissa was that I would never trust anyone blindly as I did with this special one. But no regrets as it made me stronger and better. Finally realized that it is not at all necessary to have some one in life just for the sake of having. If there is no sharing along with caring and respect then all is just a show off. Even though I gave my best through out, I cant force any one, the commitment has to come from within and not from outside anywhere!! Life has to move on.

Second Kissa!!(Strong Faith on MASTER)

(24^th June for a one day visit to meet the Master!)

Actually it was a pleasant one and the one I would never forget so easily, my one day visit to the REAL HOME! Bangalore Ashram! Wow what an experience this was, worth writing a complete post on!!! My first time travel in a flight that too alone!! I had a mission in my mind when I had set off for this visit. It was clearly to meet the Master and pray for my dad’s transfer back in Mumbai, as dad was finding it difficult to handle his Kissa’s at the bank in Lucknow.

All the Kalyan gang was in the ashram in bliss after the First ever Summer Magic Advance course. Actually all were not in bliss; some were finding it hard to digest the behavior of some immature people who were also in the ashram at that time. They got to experience the most important knowledge point of Opposite Values are Complementary in Nature! It was happening right in front of their eyes!

Anyways without much importance to such people, my focus was to meet the Master and pray for my dad and also to kindle the team spirit in the entire Kalyan gang. It did happen and all were spell bound to see me in the Ashram reception area,  when I did reach there around 1pm on the 24^th June! Rohit Zunj was completely flabbergasted to see me there! So were Suraj Mishal, Pratik, Swapnil and others.

I have this uncanny ability to surprise people around me, and I like to see the smile on their faces when they are completely surprised! It did happen but as all of this was happening I was missing someone so badly that I wanted to almost run away from the entire crowd and be alone some time, well it did not happen but yeah I enjoyed all the process of meeting Guruji in person at the Badri Vishala and mission was almost accomplished.

That was it, a short stint and I was ready the next day at around 2pm to leave back for home. As mom was waiting eagerly to know the result of whether my visit was successful or not, as she knows very well how bad I am when it comes to do things for my self and family! It has always been a second priority for me from the day I did my first Sudarshan Kriya, but this time I was proud on myself that I did do it for my mom and dad. As it was needed very badly. The result of this visit, dad got transfer back in Mumbai within next 2 months!! A real Motha Kissa!! Isn’t it?      

Third Skillful Kissa!!

It was juggling office timings and literally bunking office at will so that I can conduct YES!+ courses!! I did it almost every month of 2010 till October!! Every month I was lucky enough and blessed to conduct YES!+ courses organized by bunch of really hard working and innocent people I have with me.

I literally played around with the office for the first 10mnths of the year! And although there were lots of questions going in back of mind as to why am I doing this job? What is the need? What am I going to get out of it? The importance of doing it was justified by people I have in my life. Some near some far. The feeling of being used was prevalent through out the year. And to make it worse the situations also did not help of close ones going far off. But I kept reminding myself of the promise and commitment that I had made to someone and so kept working towards it, without actually knowing what the outcome may be!

This person is the reason why I started doing a job in first place, no one could motivate me so much that I could actually take up a job, but some how as the time went by I got more and more serious about actually doing it and the way I splurge money on eating out and shopping it’s actually helping me! So without any grudges against anyone I am grateful that I am actually challenging myself everyday to get up and balance office, seva and parents!

Few buttons did get pushed but the main switch under control!! And I know the connection with the CONTROL PANEL will be intact through out so no worries! 

Many other Kissa's also took place few worth mentioning here and few almost lost back in the memory!  But most important learning from all the Kissa;s and moving on ahead in life with more zeal and enthusiasm!!

Hoping to improve on all the KISSA’s in Twenty Eleven! And spread Master’s message of peace to more and more people. This will be a real Motha Kissa! Hope by the end of Twenty Eleven there are many more pleasant kissa's to be shared....

Wishing you all a very Fruitful and Meaningful 2011...

JGD….

Truly Your's 

R.B.K.....

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Emotions ....make you weak and strong at the same time!!!

Emotions ....make you weak and strong at the same time!!!

Jai Gurudev,
 Om Namah Shivay. 

I wonder and I am sure so must be you guys that, how I could manage to stay away from blogging for almost 18months when I had so many things to share! Anyways the important thing is I am back to it!!

As I promised in my last post that I will post something on the Emotions that we human beings go through. Here I am doing precisely that….

It’s often said that it is not good to be emotional. But people often forget that emotions are nothing but some feelings that everyone goes through, irrespective of the sex he or she belongs to. If you are a human being then you are bound to feel some emotions or the other. This is a fact!

Google might define Emotions as –

 “Emotion is the complex psycho physiological experience of an individual's state of mind as interacting with biochemical and environmental influences.”

What is the purpose of emotions? What do they do for us? They certainly have a significant effect on us, but what is it all for?

First of all, motivation is 'e-motions'. They act to motivate us. Without emotions we would probably not do very much and hence would not survive - at least in the evolved form we are in now.

Motivations are felt in the body. Our muscles tense or relax. Our blood vessels dilate or contract. When we feel emotionally, we also feel physically. Our emotions can thus make us feel uncomfortable or comfortable, sending us signals to do something urgently or to stay in our comfortable state.

 Internally, for example when we are trying to make understand something or make a decision, we use our emotions to deduce whether what we have concluded is a good idea. When we think about something that contradicts our values, our emotions will tell us that it is bad. When we think about something that could hurt us, our emotions will tell us that this is not a good idea.

You can use emotions to motivate people. Connect good emotions with what you want them to do, and bad emotions with what is not wanted.

Also watch your own emotions. They are signals that tell you something about what is happening in the inner you. This can be very useful as we often do not realize what is going on in that deep, dark subconscious inside of us.

There are more negative emotions than positive emotions. We can feel fear, anger, shame, hate, more easily than happiness and joy, a reason for this is because most emotions are designed to keep us alive. They signal warnings and prompt us to act, from running away to avoiding others to fighting back.

In real sense emotions are associated with mood, temperament and personality on an individual. Every human being who takes birth on this planet wishes to be happy in his or life. No body wants to be frustrated, dejected, unhappy or obsessive. It’s just because we give too much importance to people, situations and things around us these emotions come up in us.  This leads to total imbalance of the mind, which is always swinging between the past and present! Isn’t it? How to deal with it is the skill that one needs to learn. 

First of all one needs to understand that no emotion can stay for more than 2.5 days (Line by Rishi Vidyadharji!). So there is absolutely no need to make any fuss about you being sad some day or you being low someday and also no need to go over board when you get good news. Being in your core, center is the key to maintain your peace of mind! This state of mind cant be achieved over night, one needs to go through a lot of practice and implementation of the knowledge that the Master offers on every step of life.

 

When one gets this knowledge one has to apply it in the right sense, as I said earlier, we often end up giving too much importance to people, situations or things in our life. Let’s take it step by step.

What happens when attaches too much importance to Things in life? Nothing much one ends up becoming greedy and selfish. If these tendencies are dominant in anyone then you should be able to guess it that they are attaching too much importance to things in life. Things can be bought, sold, again bought and also stolen. The thing that we feel is important today may not have that much importance few days later and definitely it will be irrelevant over the period of time. As everything that is made comes with an expiry date. Even the creator of that thing will die some day so forget about the thing itself. 

          For example, one attaches too much importance to car, clothes, property, or jewellery. All these are classic examples of things which people want to posses in their lives. They feel if they have a big house with a swimming pool and a posh car parked outside their house then the purpose of their life is done. Where as they forget the simple fact that one has to die one day and when this happens all these things are not going to go with him / her! People will be more interested in who takes over the property and the other stuff after one dies!! So the intelligent thing here is to not to get too attached to Things in life, as they leave oneself greedy and selfish.


 

          Then we end up attaching ourselves too much to the situations around us. Again there is no point in doing this. You take any situation in your life, has it not changed over the period of time? And has it not taught you something very memorable? Yes it has isn’t it? The very fact that God creates situations in our life is because we can learn and grow from them, not to get caught up and sink into them. If one attaches too much importance to situations he or she become lazy and dull. They start blaming the situation in life for their life not working as they want it to. So the intelligent thing here again is to not to attach too much importance to any situation that comes up in life, be it your birthday or break up day!!!

 One has to do an analysis of giving too much importance to people too. One has to ponder over this question is it really worth to give some person more importance than what he or she deserves? Or more than your own existence? Most often than not you will get a negative response. Right? Very rarely the answer to this question is in the affirmative.

 

Lets look in depth of this, what happens when you give more importance to people around you? Often they start taking undue advantage of you, they start taking you for granted. Most dangerous is that you start blaming these people when anything in your life goes haywire. We often end up forgetting the simple fact that nothing remains same forever, not even our own body so how can we be rest assured that the people around us wont change over the period of time? Isn’t it? It’s the law of the nature that all have to undergo be it a human being or an animal!! The bottom line is EVERTHING CHANGES!!

This does not mean that we just sit back and don’t act when people start taking undue advantage of you. One has to ACT and not REACT. There is a big difference in this. Normally we end up reacting to people and in doing this we forget to act rationally. This leads to negativity, hatred and stress. So intelligent thing to do is first of all, don’t give too much importance to any person in your life, be it your boy friend / girl friend / father in law / mother in law / boss / friend or anyone. And if you have ended up giving too much importance to anyone then act on it by taking right action about it!

Story time again!!!      

It’s easier to say than to do it. I myself was finding it extremely difficult to do it. Rather I thought at one point of time that I was finished completely, loosing confidence that I had in me and was in my shell. My condition was exactly like fish without water. Gasping for breath and survival. Al though I was managing to smile and interact with all, I knew inside I was completely shaken. Thank God I became aware of what a blunder I was doing by going away from my nature which is to be happy and spread happiness to all. 

Thank to the lovely Master and HIS Grace (a few quality friends and volunteers in my life) I at least started to realize what I was doing and what I wanted to do.  Not blaming anyone as I am thankful to this person for teaching the fact of not to attach too much importance to any one in life.

 

As the title of the post indicates Emotions make you weak and strong at the same time!!!  ONS!!!

 

Selfless people needed in the times of Selfish acts around…..

Jai Gurudev,

High time I get in to blogging again right?!!

Here is my latest post….

Selfless people needed in the times of Selfish acts around…..

Yes this is what is the need of the hour and so does my small post after many many days rather many many months!!

So as all are aware that Guruji himself has told all to take care of health and hygiene for past one month almost.

When this news reached me, I was a bit shocked that how straight forward the instructions were from the Master this time around. Normally HE tells to remain happy and give away a smile to all. But this time was different.

Without wasting a second the awareness dawned in. The 5 senses along with the 7 levels of existence started to feel the need for attention!!!!

Just a couple of days back I came to know that why HE must have told these instructions so precisely this time. Read an article in the DNA which praised the seva efforts taken up by YES!+ volunteers taken up across the country.

That time I realized the value of Master’s words. I mean if we only don’t take care in our acts then who will? As it is there is loads of negativity and crime happening around because of stress and tensions so its time that we YES!+ warriors stand up and make the good work count.

We have learnt the importance of being selfless and serving people around, irrespective of the caste, creed or religion to what they belong. So it’s our prime responsibility to take care of our health and hygiene, so that we can serve better.

The entire week went by in the wait of the most awaited verdict from the Indian Judiciary. Because of some selfish people around, the judiciary is not able to function as smoothly as it should.

This makes the topic of the post more relevant, if we have more people in the system itself who are not corrupt, who know what it is to take responsibilities in life and who can handle stress with a relaxed and focused mind, then wouldn’t it be a great thing?

But this has to start with ourselves first. We need to become aware of what’s going around us, in our college, society, office, housing societies, etc. When we know what we are in to and what we need to change then ideas flow in automatically.

I mean a very basic and simple thing we can do is just go and talk to more and more people about AOL bring them on to this path. That’s the only solution to everything that’s happening around.

So I gave the caption to the post as need of Selfless people to stand up and high time their efforts are taken in to account.

  

Story Time…..my experience over past few days, rather months….

I personally have been seeing people around me and who are not around me, going through a lot in their lives. Just because of the Guru Grace Things are a bit easy in my life.

Things meaning the events and activities that I am into!! It all started on the 2^nd August, 2010 with the Ashtavakra Geeta at one of our very committed volunteer Burma’s place. It was a fantabolus experience to listen to HIM all over again. More on it in my next post!

But the point I want to bring out is, if I would have been not into AOL and YES!+ in particular I would not have been able to manage and juggle my office and knowledge sessions timings so easily! It’s the skills which I got after practicing the techniques taught on my YES!+ course!

In the end it so happened that I used to only wait for the clock to show the time as 5.30pm! That’s it I was off and away from my office to catch train, as a cat running after mouse!!!

The session ended on a high with a satsang and some good Prasad by Divya and Pathakji family!! I mean the real Prasadam of the 32 days was even sweeter!! We also managed to complete a YES!+ course during the Ashtavakra was on!  It was a wonderful course with people of all ages doing it! Kudos to all the volunteers who gave their heart, body and soul to get the course up.

 Then was a bigger challenge in front of me, another course was scheduled in Bhivpuri College, and I had to assist the course with Anjana didi! I mean this was not the challenge, the course timings were a real challenge and also the fact that it was happening in a completely different location from what I am used to! As if this was not enough, Di called me up 2 days before the course and told that she had sore eyes and the fact that she could not come on the course till the last day!

That’s it this was enough to pull the trigger inside me and to act spontaneously as to how was I going to manage this again! Nothing I remained calm for sometime and ideas began to flow in again! But as this was happening GURU Grace was flowing too!!

The course was going to start on Wednesday and a day before in my office I was busy thinking of reasons to put in front of my management to leave office half day as the course timings were 4.30pm – 7.30pm!! My office madam came in office and before I could open my mouth she said something that was like a melody to my ears! She said I had to book her flight for Punjab via Delhi of the next day!! I was like wow!! This sounds cool enough! I was happy that she was leaving the next day, but as HIS Grace is unparallel, I was swept off my feat when she said after sometime that she would like to leave on the same day and would come back only after 4 days!!!! I went in my mind satva satva satva! Almost jumping off my office chair. Just like King Janaka did while He was listening to Ashtavakra!!!

That episode also was taken care off by the MASTER. I mean again in this entire episode the thing which I could learn that was how things happen the way you want them to happen when you do HIS work with that sincerity and devotion… I could not in my wildest of dreams dream of conducting a YES!+ at the time that I ended up taking it! But things were happening as I wanted them to at least on the spiritual path.

This is when I realized that no matter how much effort I put into things, events or people in order to change them, it can’t happen until HE wishes it to happen. I was completely in my shell even after doing sadhana regularly for the past 7 years and more. It was because I was giving lot more importance to people, in particular to one person, and so it let down to my emotions over hauling me. More on the emotions in later posts.  

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